What Are WE Teaching Our Daughters???

A couple of weeks ago I let my 13 year old nephew have some friends over, nothing out of the norm. They hung out, played video games, did the stuff boys their age do. That evening he asked if some more friends could come over, not a problem... I'm the cool aunt. Cute little girls, but no one came in to make sure there was an adult there or anything and I didn't know these girls. They go on and do their thing, and I'm watching from a distance. After a while I check outside and to my amazement they are playing grown folks games in the pool. There is kissing and groping, really heavy petting. Needless to say I make them get out and call one of the girls mother.
I'm not that old, but at 13 or 14 when a boy felt on my booty i punched him and told my big brother, that was a violation. In Jr. High I had my little boyfriend and we snuck kisses, but not like that. I still considered my nephew to be kinda green. After all his interest are basketball, video games, big trucks, and eating... I didn't know that girls were included in that list. I guess that I'm the green one.
While we were waiting I decided to talk to the kids and let them know how disrespectful and inappropriate their actions were. I got some real insight to this era. I told my nephew and his friends how disrespectful it is to grope and feel on a woman. How tasteless it looks. And asked them how they would like it if someone treated their sister that way. My nephew told me that his sisters were not that kind of female. They wouldn't let a dude handle them like that. So if a girl is willing to let him have some fun... why shouldn't he? The question threw me for a loop, I didn't expect that response ( probably due to my lack of parenting experience ). I explained to them that the time would come when that was appropriate, but at their age none of what they were doing was cool. It should be reserved for the time in their life when they have someone special and are more mature. One of the girls then told me that she could see if a girl was doing (sexual) things to get attention or to make some boys like her, but what's wrong with doing you, if your comfortable with who you are and know what you want? So, I asked her what she wanted. They had made it clear to me that none of them were dating or boyfriend/ girlfriend... so I didn't get why they would be making out with them if they didn't like them. She told me that they just came to chill and there wasn't anything wrong with that. If that is chillin'... I been out of the game way too long
I explained to these young ladies that any guy who does not respect you, does not deserve you. And it was made clear that these young men had no respect for them. When a woman does not present herself to be the queen she is, she can't expect to be treated as such. Everyone wants to be respected, but acting like a hood rat will get you treated like a hood rat. The mother didn't like my analogy. She told me not to pass judgement on her child. I didn't, I was sad for her child. This mother didn't know me from Adam. But, still she dropped her daughter off, with friends to go and chill with 3 boys after dark at a stranger's house. No questions asked, not introductions, no investigation. What are we teaching our daughter's? I thought it was horrible that mother checked my drawers, read my letters, and interviewed every boy that came to my house to see me. I thought it was old fashion for her to tell me not to be going to a boys house and not to call him often. I didn't understand why she always told me to pay attention to what a person does and not what they say. I thank her for putting me up on game. Being pretty only gets you so far, and then beauty fades.But, it's not as simple as that. Those are life lessons. If we don't teach our daughter's how to conduct themselves we will lose another generation of children. It's time that we give our daughter's some substance, we've been missing that for far too long.