Why are You Single?

I've answered this question so many times in the past couple of years that I have a prepared monologue. I was thinking about it last night after someone asked me again. The reason for me being single has changed since I first decided to be single for a while. Afte a long relationship ended on very bad terms I thought it would be good to just do me for a minute. I had spent my twenties in 2 long relationships that spanned a complete decade. Spending time with myself and enjoying me was the plan. I am happy that I took that time for me. I learned a lot about myself. I am not one of those women who have to be in a relationship, it just worked out that way. Companionship is a wonderful thing and a basic human need. But, I am one who needs intimacy. That doesn't always work well in the dating world. Women are not the only ones with their guards up, there are brother's out there who have some things they need to work thru.

About a year ago, I thought I was ready to get back in the game. I was wrong. What I wanted was not possible. I wanted someone to give me all of them and be willing to only have a part of me. There was still hurt I had not delt with sufficiently. I wanted all the perks of a relationship with none of the responsibility. That would not be fair to me or the the person I became involved with. After a few deep conversations with my girls ( i LOVE those chicks) , I saw the errors in that philosophy. And so, I began deal with my feelings. There were a few things that I had to admit to myself before moving on. A few things that I needed to accept and bring to a conclusion. I that and I am better for it. I didn't want to be the woman who is always waiting for a brother to mess up. I didn't want to carry the baggage of my broken heart into another relationship. I refused to be bitter because of one mans mistake and to make another man have to pay for that mistake.
Today I am single simply because I choose to be. I want to be in a committed relationship, i miss having a partner. It is not due to a lack of options or disinterest. I will wait on the right man for me. I won't go looking for him, I think all things have a time and a place in life. Now I can say that when the right brother comes along I am ready to give him all of me.